Even Introverts Need Social Interaction

In a lot of circles, there’s this impression of the introvert as the loner. However, being an introvert isn’t really about disliking people, or not wanting social interaction. And, to tell the truth, introversion is something that often happens on a continuum, with extroversion at the other end. Few of us are completely introverted or totally extroverted.

This means that many introverts don’t want to be by themselves all the time. I know this for a fact, since I tend toward introversion. Being an introvert is more about how you recharge your batteries. I really like the explanation of introversion shared on Atchuup.com. It provides a helpful look at how introverts really just need to find people with whom they are comfortable — and they need time to be alone as well.

But the need to be alone sometimes doesn’t mean that introverts don’t sometimes crave social interaction. Introverts get lonely, too.


How to Find Social Interaction as an Introvert

Finding social interaction as an introvert can be a little bit challenging, depending on your circumstances. I like to look for a few people with whom I feel comfortable, and who have something in common with me. While I think it’s a bad idea to only talk to people who are just like you, and who hold the same worldview as you, I also like to be able to relax with people who get me.

When looking for social interaction, the first thing to do is to look in small groups. See if you can find a local meetup, club, or some other organization that is of interest to you, and that has a relatively small meeting size. You can go and meet new people, do work that you find satisfying, and get a little social interaction. This can be a good way to develop friendships.

I also like to have an extrovert as a friend. One of the things I do while attending conferences is to attach myself to someone who is outgoing and likes meeting people. If you see me around a conference, chances are I’m in company with an extrovert I feel comfortable with. I can have some of the side effects of social interaction, but without expending the energy. He takes care of that, meeting people, being fun, and doing whatever it is that he does. And I’m along for the ride. I can hang and get social interaction, but I don’t have to do as much. If I happen to connect with someone new in the group, that’s great. But if not, I haven’t drained myself dry with the social interaction.

There are only so many relationships I can sustain on a deep level, and to be honest, my husband and son get the lion’s share of that energy. That means that social interaction requires that I have something in common with a group and just attend the group for the vibes, or that I make a few good friends, and then tag along.

What’s the state of your social interaction? How do you interact with others when you feel the need to get out?

About the Author

Miranda is a freelance writer and professional blogger. See more of her writing at MirandaMarquit.com. Her book, Confessions of a Professional Blogger is available from Amazon.