Do You Need to Change?

“I’m fine the way I am.”

“I won’t change for anyone.”

“Why should I change?”

We live in a world where society believes that acceptance is important. We are all different, and, the idea goes, we shouldn’t have to try and conform to what everyone wants.

But can change be a good thing? You might benefit from changing in some way.

Change = Growth

One of the problems I have with the idea that we don’t need to change who we are is that stagnation is antithetical to progress. If you want to grow as a person, and if we want to grow as a society, some change is necessary. And sometimes it’s necessary to make changes to who you are.

Change is a great catalyst for growth. If you want to get better at something, you have to practice. Over time, your abilities change and you master your challenges. Whether you want to play a musical instrument or become better at business, the changes you make promote your growth.

The same is also true in a relationship. While you don’t want to give up your ideals and values to impress a potential partner, there are some changes that need to be made if you want to grow in your relationship. Both partners usually have to learn to compromise, as well as learn to be less selfish.

Our ability to progress is often related to our ability to change. This might mean changing the way you think about an issue, or even how you react in certain circumstances. Think about the reasons you want to change. If you hope to improve your own life, and you want to be a better person, making changes can be one answer. If you aren’t willing to change, you will be limited as to your growth.

Making Changes

If you decide that you want to make changes in your life, it’s always a good idea to start small. A complete attitude makeover probably isn’t possible in a short period of time. But if you want to change yourself from a negative person to a positive person, you can take small steps each day to accomplish this goal. Start out by keeping a gratitude journal, or finding at least one person to compliment each day.

When you want to relax more, or add more time for reflection in your life, start by adding five or 10 minutes of meditation to your day. Whether you want to improve your health, reduce your carbon footprint, re-connect with your life partner, or stop biting your fingernails, it’s possible to start off by making small changes.

Making big, sudden changes is rarely effective. You have a better chance of success if you focus on a small change you want to make, and then work on that a bit at time. Pretty soon, you find that what you thought of as a change has now become your normal state of being. Step up your efforts as you find success, and you will find that you have a greater capacity for change than you might have thought.

What do you think? Is change good? Do you see change as a sign of progress?

 

About the Author

Miranda is a freelance writer and professional blogger. See more of her writing at MirandaMarquit.com. Her book, Confessions of a Professional Blogger is available from Amazon.