Bringing the Focus Back to People

Lately, I’ve had a bit of an epiphany. I’ve let my focus on people slip a little bit, particularly when it comes to my son. My son’s new schoolwork situation has prompted a little self-reflection, as well as the realization that I’ve been letting distractions encroach on my time to help him with homework, as well as on other interactions I’m having with my family.

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Technology and Distractions

I love technology. Technology has improved my life immeasurably, not the least because it allows me to set my own hours and work from home. However, handheld technology makes it easier than ever to be distracted. I might just want to check my email “real quick” or finish reading a chapter on my Kindle.

However, when I am looking at my technology, I’m not putting my full attention on other things. When I’m working out, I should be working out. And when I’m helping my son with his English homework, I shouldn’t be compulsively checking Facebook. We went to dinner the other night as a family, and we put the cell phones away. We had a nice conversation that didn’t break one time during dinner because my husband, my son, and I were all focused on each other, and not distracted by text messages.

Sometimes, we just need to put the technology away, and focus on people. It’s easy to get lost in technology because it’s easier to deal with. As an introvert, I know how draining it can be to give attention to people. However, it’s important if you want to build relationships. I’ve been trying to pay more attention to people, especially when I’m with them, so that I can make those connections.

Mindfulness of Others in the Moment

I’ve also been a little distracted by my own thoughts lately. While this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it is something to be aware of. How mindful are you when you are listening to someone else? It’s easy for me to sort of “zone out” when my son is talking to me, or when I’m on the phone with someone. However, that doesn’t focus on others, and it doesn’t take me out of myself. Sometimes, you need to be mindful of others in the moment.

Are you really paying attention to what someone else is saying? I am trying harder to pay attention, rather than letting my thoughts wander. I want to build a good relationship with my son and my husband, and drifting thoughts don’t help. I’ve started putting down the book when someone else is talking, or quitting the work. That way, I can be truly mindful of what the other person is saying. This is important because it validates the other person, and lets him or her know that you care.

After thinking about the way I’ve treated others recently, I’ve been working on changing. No, I haven’t been treating others poorly. However, I have been treating them somewhat thoughtlessly. Bringing the focus back to people can help me grow as a person, and let those I care about know that they are safe expressing themselves to me.

About the Author

Miranda is a freelance writer and professional blogger. See more of her writing at MirandaMarquit.com. Her book, Confessions of a Professional Blogger is available from Amazon.