When you pick up a feather, do you feel like it weighs anything?
But if you put it on a scale, you will see that it does have a weight, just a very small one.
However if you take a billion feathers and weigh them, the weight becomes noticeable, if you were to try and pick up the sack full of them.
Petty problems and worries are the same as feathers.
Unnoticeable at first, until you feel like you are being crushed under the weight of them.
Every petty issue that adds up without being cleared from your conscience and purged, will soon becomes unbearable when the noose is hung around your neck.
A well-known Arab proverb – the straw that broke the camel’s back — illustrates this quite nicely as well.
So what can you do to limit your petty problems? I could list them all out here, but I think the the biggest one might be simply worrying about what other people think of you.
Anyone who doesn’t go with mainstream beliefs, will worry about what others think when they start.
WORRYING ABOUT YOUR IMAGE
It can be easy to say: Forget about the others. Worry about more important things. Who cares what they think about you?
Putting that into practice, as with everything that is worth achieving is not quite as simple.
I like everyone else, started off seeking the approval and validation of others around me, but it soon had a weight, and a price to pay.
Every time I’d mention that I wished I could live a lighter life and perhaps live with just a single carload of items so that I could go from city to city for work without needing very much, the few people I mentioned this to, didn’t scoff at me, but they sure gave me long, skeptical looks.
- What about all your stuff? Well I’d sell it, or toss it!
- But you NEED [insert whatever here]!! What if I didn’t?
- You’d have to move and pack so much! Which is why I need less!
- Why not keep an apartment to come home to? Why should I?
- What about your friends/family? This is why I love the internet.
It made me doubt my “vision” of what I thought I could achieve, and as a result, it took me months before I managed to get everything I had previously owned ( a huge 2000 square foot apartment worth of stuff), down to a carload.
HOW TO START LIGHTENING YOUR WORRY LOAD
- Write out all your issues and problems, no matter what size
- Sort them as priorities
- Eliminate those you cannot control (job market, for instance)
- Now go through each worry and eliminate it if it is unnecessary
- For whatever is remaining, come up with a plan and knock them out
- Execute each plan with a goal and deadline in mind
PUTTING IT INTO PRACTICE
For instance, getting out of debt might be a big one for many of you.
If it is a worry that you can fix, and is weighing on your mind each day, then do something about it.
See, the second major doubt people had, was whether or not I could clear my student debt of $60,000 in 5 years.
I was earning good money at the time ($65,000), but to them, paying $12,000 a year net towards my debt just sounded ludicrous.
I’d have to pay ~$1100 each and every a month (accounting for interest charges), while covering expenses, but my minimum debt repayment amount was only $300/month.
(For the record, I cleared my debt in 18 months simply by tracking my money and cutting back on my expenses.)
So how can you do it?
- Become interested in your money.
- Be sick of your debt.
- Start paying $100 more per month towards your principal.
- Remind yourself that you have a goal.
- Stay away from temptation.
You will find that once you know how much you owe, what you are doing about it, and how you are achieving it, your worrying with disappear because you have a plan.