Sometimes we think about buying or upgrading things just for the sake of it, or for the image.
We are our own Joneses.
We do a lot of things in our life that help contribute to being the person we want to be, however sometimes we need to step back, bite the bullet and re-evaluate.
For example, I know a couple who doesn’t cook AT ALL.
They go out to eat all the time, they buy fast food, and when they do buy groceries, they leave them to rot in the fridge.
Yet when they purchased their new home, the #1 thing on the wife’s list was a HUGE KITCHEN — even larger than this one pictured:
She basically just wanted the kitchen to match with the rest of the home — to be large, spacious, with a fully equipped set of burners, inside grill, 2 ovens.. the whole drill.
She had mentally created a persona of herself: the perfect Martha Stewart-like wife who works a full-time job, and spends time making gourmet meals in her very fancy kitchen.
Instead, she doesn’t do any of the above, but paid an extra $50,000 for a renovated kitchen to feel as though she was working towards this goal of her ideal self, and has been buying gourmet take-out to put on the fancy china.
Their perspectives and priorities were not in sync with their actions.
Who they wanted to be, or pretend to be to themselves, their family and friends, really has nothing to do with what they own or buy.
If she wanted to be a full-time, perfect mom who cooked homemade meals everyday, she should’ve looked back at her life and figured out where to find the time to do all of it, such as:
- Start saying no to commitments at her kids’ schools
- Start refusing to have a busy social schedule every weekend
- Start by doing something simple, such as making a quick breakfast each day
- Stop buying expensive gourmet take-out from local restaurants
- ..basically setting her actions in sync with her priorities and purchases
Instead, she’s trying to fake it and spending (wasting?) a lot of money to keep up the appearance.