Over the past couple of months, I’ve changed a lot of things in my life. First, my wife started a daycare at home. Then, I made some important changes in my lifestyle, I’m getting more toward a Sweden’s lifestyle.
#1 I sold my RX-8 and am getting used to having one car
#2 I reduced my monthly spending on wine and food
#3 I delayed most of my other unnecessary expenses (read everything not related to my children).
To be honest, I wasn’t excited about these changes; I wasn’t thrilled about reducing my lifestyle. But I had no choice for now. Since we are focusing on a healthier corporate situation, we have stopped all “benefits” derived from our online company. This has forced me to run on a smaller budget. As I recently wrote on this blog, making money in the PF online world is not as easy as it used to. This is why we have to concentrate on what we do best and also have to stop spending carelessly.
BUT IT WASN’T THAT BAD
I was a bit quick to sell my car. After all, I can slow down on wine and good food and still hit a few bottles per month. But I can’t sell my sports car and hope to drive it again. This was more than a car, it was a symbol of wealth, power and speed. OMG… that’s so BS when you think about it!
This is exactly what I realized once I sold it; driving a cool car is not the end of the world. In fact, after a few weeks, it’s more liberating than anything else; no car issues, no expensive gas bills. In other words; I’m less cool, but richer! Hahaha!
IT’S NEVER ENOUGH
The other thing I realized this year is that one never has enough stuff. Now that I’m making good money, I want more. I want more money, more stuff, more of everything. That’s completely stupid. I’ve got into a cycle of always wanting to make a bigger bonus to live a bigger life. I call it ambition and I’m proud of being ambitious. However, I’ve realized that it’s better to put my ambitions elsewhere than in a bigger bonus.
The myth of corporate performance never ends. The more you bring the numbers in, the more you want to bring in. In the end, it all resets on Day #1 of your fiscal year and you start the wheel all over again. That’s enough to give you a headache!
Since my last son was born (about 20 months ago), I’ve taken life lightly. I didn’t push too much on my online company (no matter how motivated I was) and didn’t push as hard on my day job either. In the end, I still did more than most people would do anyway, but in my inner self, I know I wasn’t working at full speed. The funny part is that nobody noticed; I was still ahead since I’m highly productive. I guess that I could continue to “cruise” my way for a few years and nobody would ever realize that there was something wrong.
I’ve spent a lot of time trying to find what was wrong with me. I was happy, I am happy! I like my job, I like having my sideline but still, I wasn’t sure why I wasn’t running full speed. To be honest, I’m not sure that I have found the real answer of why I feel this way. I just feel that I need to slow down for a while and enjoy what I have.
I’ve never been as close to my family, to my kids as I am right now. I spend a lot of time with my three kids and can see my toddler evolving day after day. I didn’t do that for my two first kids. I guess a part of the answer why I’ve slowed down is there; I want to enjoy the small things in life.
This is why I’ve decided to live my life differently; with less stuff and more savings. My guess is that I’m rebooting and preparing my system to start on another rush eventually. After all, I’m expecting to go to Hawaii in 2014… so I better rack-up a few more dollars to pay for this trip!
How are you living your life? Are you expecting to make more money to spend it? Or are you enjoying the small things?